As some of you may already know, I’ve spent several years
trying to find a good family doctor.
I realize that there is a shortage of family doctors in many areas, and
that I should probably feel lucky to even have a selection to choose from. But I think it’s very important to have
someone you can trust and feel comfortable with, since most of us will probably
need to talk with about some pretty serious physical and mental health issues,
at some point.
Since our move to Calgary, I have probably had about 5 ‘meet
and greet’ appointments, which I usually left feeling disappointed and
underwhelmed. I honestly don’t
think my standards are too high – the qualities I look for are: good with kids;
basic social skills - like eye contact and a smile now and then; a good
understanding of post partum; and sensitivity to mental health issues. Needless to say, most of the doctors I
met were lacking in one if not all of these categories. I had actually given up my search and
decided that my ideal doctor didn’t exist, until he literally walked into our
lives…
Ivan and I had taken Rya for a walk-in appointment and in
came a doctor with the biggest smile I’d ever seen. He greeted us both and then sat down in front of Rya and spent a few
minutes admiring her pink boots and asking if they had a pair in his size. Before placing a hand on her, he made
sure to make friends first – getting down to her level to catch her eyes, and showing
her his stethoscope and light.
Then he joked that he had lost his bumblebee and asked permission to
look in her ears and throat for it. Rya even thinks his name is Dr. Bumblebee, which I suppose is
fair since his real name – Dr. Mkhabela – is a bit harder for her to pronounce
: ) Dr. Bumblebee won Rya over that very first day and won Ivan over just as
fast with his ‘Eddie Murphy laugh’ as Ivan describes it.
To be honest, I had thought Dr. Mkhabela was too good to be
true, so I went back on my own to put him to the test. I’ve been on
anti-depressants/anti-anxiety medication since my post-partum issues with
Mariah, and have been continuously trying to decide whether I should try and
wean myself off. When I brought
the concern to Dr. Mkhabela – he was as sensitive and non-judgmental as I could
have hoped. He did not make a decision
for me, but engaged me in a discussion about the pro’s and con’s of stopping
medication. Together we decided to
hold off until next summer since winter months can be especially tough on a
person’s mood. It was a decision I
was comfortable with, after a conversation where I really felt heard and
supported.
Each time we go back, Dr. Mkhabela seems to have this same
genuine passion for his work and kindness in his approach. He is so natural in his skill, yet also
seems consistently aware of his words to try and maintain his own personal high
standard of care. In
conversations, I’ve noticed him independently correcting himself from saying
‘should’ to presenting options to his patient. And when he booked an appointment with me to review a ‘plan
of action’ for my health concerns (which no other doctor had done), I happened
to see him look at his list of questions – silently gazing over the
‘overweight’ section – and I’m pretty sure I heard his wife in his head saying
“If you know what’s good for you, you will not ask this new mom about her weight!”,
as he discretely skipped over the section.
I can’t begin to explain how happy Ivan and I are to finally
have a family doctor who has gone above and beyond our expectations. Last time I was there, I asked if he
was looking for a bumblebee when he checked my ears, and sure enough I got his
hearty ‘Eddie Murphy’ laugh : )
Dr. Mkhabela has joked that he should put bumblebee stickers on the
ceiling to distract kids when they are lying for an examination. So I recently went on a search of my
own and managed to find some. At my next visit, I will hand him a copy of this blog as well as some
bumblebee stickers!
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